Tuesday, April 21, 2015

How to help a friend or loved one the best you can during a breakup/divorce

Hey guys! 

I have had a few heart breaks in my days, and I don't know what I would have done if I didn't have my one bff who was there for me and made me take my mind off the heart ache for even a minute. If you can offer that to someone you love that's huge!




This is a little different of a post but I just recently had a sad encounter with a friend and her husband splitting after many years and it was very heart breaking, I cried many tears with her and tried to hold her hand as much as possible through this. I just wanted to offer some advice to you and maybe it can help a friend, family member or even yourself. I hope you can find something out of this useful!

First things first everything depends on their personality and how close you are but you can gauge that the best you can as you know the person.

Once I had heard the awful news of the adultery I knew her world crumbled and I had to do whatever I could even to take one ounce of pain away for a minute. Whether it was late night phone calls, visits, even texts(even though it isn't as personal but some people take more time to open up)

1. BE THERE FOR THEM!!!! 
Let them confide in you, cry to you, laugh with you! Tell their story if they are ready. HUG them!!! 

2. LISTEN!!!! 
This is HUGE! So many of us do not realize we don't listen as much as we should but this is a time where we just need to put our issues in our lives aside and just listen.

3. IT'S OKAY TO NOT HAVE THE RIGHT WORDS!!!!
No one knows exactly what to say, there is no real wrong or right things to say to someone dealing with pain. You want to tell them everything is okay and they will get through this-and they will but it will take a lot of time and support.

4. CREATE A SUPPORT SYSTEM!!!!
This is also really important, I personally myself don't have much of a support system around me but I do have a couple real close friends and if that's all you have thats okay! They need to be around family, friends, anything positive.Maybe take up a new hobby together, maybe just go for walks and let them talk, being alone at first can just be awful for some. People do need their space but if you can make them know they are worth it and will get through this with you and anyone else they love they will stay strong.

5. LET THEM KNOW THEIR STRENGTHS!!!!
My friend who had her cheating husband out of no where was a complete mind blower, disgusting and no excuses, 2 little kids and everything was awful like just AWFUL. Her personally the top thing I would always remind her rad she was on top of:
 Her strength.Absolutely a strong girl! 
Her AMAZING mothering skills! I have never in my life (and I am old ;) ) have EVER met a mother more committed and wonderful to her children as her!!
That she is beautiful!
Time will heal and you will be there every step of the way!

6. TAKE HER OUT!!!!
When the time is right and she is feeling up to it, maybe have a nice girls out, could be a few drinks, a movie, a coffee, mani/pedis,tattoos(thats our thing LOL) Whatever SHE would like to do and just keep her laughing!

There are a lot of things you can do based on the person and the circumstances, it may need to be adjusted accordingly just to their personality but here is a couple little things I did for her:

I didn't know what to do but I just tried my best and thats all we really can do. I got a nice box together with a card I personalized just for her and wrote a long positive, funny and loving words in,a positive Louise Hay book, it was a quick read so I thought it would be easier in between the tears, but it is a self esteem builder and hopefully would make her smile. I bought her eye gel patches you can put in your fridge and put on your eyes to help with swelling (from all the crying :(  ) Some nice bubble bath. My favourite, and I believe her favorite thing as well  I got was a journal from Chapters, now I don't remember what it was called but I told her to write all the anger, the hurt, the sadness that she didn't want the world to know (she puts on a brave face) and then eventually as time goes on it will turn into a positive journal. I even wrote some joke notes in there to try to make her laugh.
Inside this journal I wrote a Men bashing list! (sorry dudes out there, it just was suiting, and I would do the same for my male friends with females that did them wrong.) It was a joke list, just trying to make her smile :)

Many visits, coffees, a couple vodkas, tears,laughs,hugs,phone calls and texts she is getting stronger and stronger! I actually wanted her to write a blog about her story because she is incredible and an inspiration to all.

I hope this helps any of you looking for ideas, and just so you know I am not bashing men or women, it was just the circumstances of this relationship and different things apply to different situations.

Have you guys ever had to help out a friend in this type of situation? What were some tools you used to help your friend or family member?



Monday, April 13, 2015

Happiness

I am currently writing a couple articles for a few blogs, hopefully they are a success and I will share them! 
My question is, what is your idea of happiness for you? :) I'd love to hear!

Image from Weheartit






Monday, March 30, 2015

Irresistible Me Sapphire 8 in 1 Complete Curling Wand Review



What more could you ask for?!

"The Sapphire Curling Wand is our new, top of the line curler that features tourmaline technology and eight different interchangeable barrels. It’s just like having 8 separate hair curlers... but much more affordable and easy to transport and deposit.  
The Sapphire will help you create endless hairstyles while also protecting your hair. This curling wand is extremly versatile and every barrel will create a different type of curl: tight perm like curls, ringlet curls, spirals curls, ribbon curls, flick curls, large and bouncy curls, beach or wavy curls and finger wave type curls  that will hold for ages. "



Beware this is going to be picture crazy but I enjoy photography.....I will admit I had a very hard time photographing the back of my head by myself so the pictures aren't as creative as I would have liked. As well I have had my hair dyed in between so excuse the color differences.

I am super stoked to review another Irresistible Me product, I did a review on their extensions here
Where to begin right?
I first receive the package, quick shipping to Canada, securely shipped and I opened up everything as fast as I could to check out the goodies! I can't believe there is a curling wand that actually has 8 different curling wands. It might sound like a lot, but you get your money's worth with the variety! If you love curls this product is definitely for you. 


A nice compact size for 8 different wands plus the curler. I like the look of it, it's nice and clean.

Lot of compartments! LOL but great for travel and could store easily in your suitcase or bag, anywhere really. It's fairly light as well.


I absolutely Love the swivel cord, that shows me there is more thought put into this as I always used to tangle every cord ever when I used regular curling irons (what are those anyways? lol)
The handle is a nice blue with black.


Of course you gotta have the glove right! I actually didn't use this once because once you see the wands you will know why I may not have needed it. It's also a good size, a bit big for me but it would work well-usually they are way too big so it's nice its a good size.


Handle while it's off the digital temperature screen is blue.The temperature ranges from 170'F-450'F so you get a really good range for fine-thick hair. It heats up SO quick, I timed it for this review and to heat up to 450'F is just over a minute. I remember my curling irons taking like ten minutes to heat up LOL.


Once you've decided the temperature you wait well for me it was like 25 seconds since I only went to 310'F max for temperature since my hair is fine.
The controls are just below where you attach your wand, on/off up/down. Pretty simple. To add an attachment as well make sure you have the white arrow to the unlock, place the desired wand in and turn to lock, then turn on wand, adjust temperature and you are set!

So I started with the order the wands came in inside their carrying case just to make it slightly easier for me to remember LOL.
8 is an incredible variety and a lot of fun to change up your hair! I have very pin straight hair that doesn't hold a curl,lets see if this holds up to everything i've heard!



The 13mm Wand- just the little guy

As you can see in the photo the ends of the wand is matte black, a plastic so you can actually touch it and not burn yourself, that's why I didn't need the glove but please use it until you are comfortable using curling wands if you do purchase this curling wand. I cannot believe I didn't burn myself once! I usually always do!!!!


13mm Wand

My tight curls,I don't like the uniform style, more messy is my thing so I had to run my fingers though this after the curls set.
 I curl the curls in different ways but mostly down and away from my face. I didn't think I would like the look of the 13mm since it is so tiny but I really actually liked it a lot!
This took under 8 minutes (my hair is fine) but lasted all day which is rare for me!



25mm Wand


25mm Wand 

Okay I LOVED this one so much! I didn't know if my hair would curl well since it is a thicker wand but it just works as like a beach wave look. This as well took under 8 minutes which is super awesome! Lasted most of the day but I needed hair spray and not to touch my hair as much-my bad!



18/9mm Wand


18/9mm

This wasn't my top favourites for curls, it did last most of the day though so thats important with my STRAIGHT STRAIGHT strands! Again under 8 minutes to curl my whole head, it's soon quick and your out the door.



The Pearl Wand. Crazy right? I was stoked to test this out and I LOVED the outcome as well!


A bit messy I guess but again I like that look, I did have a problem with this lasting all day with me, I am not sure if the want is just too big for my hair or if it is just user error since it's a little bit different then using a regular wand, I definitely will be reaching for this one more to perfect it. I might even update this picture. Again I timed them all and everything was 8 or under so its very nice and quick compared to a regular curling iron, which I don't even know if anyone uses anymore, I sure won't!


25/13mm Wand


25/13mm Wand

This is a tighter curl,made my hair feel a little shorter! Yet it is still very pretty. I hope you guys can see the curls, I messed it up a bit and a comb ran through it and did use a defining cream each time I curled my hair after the curls set. This style lasted all day which I guess isn't surprising since it is tighter and again under 8 minutes to curl my whole head. It takes longer to try to photograph the back of my head then to curl it LOL.



13/25mm Wand

(seriously don't know why my hair looks full on pink here LOL I don't have any lighting so I guess that might have a big deal to do with it. REALLY need to buy studio lighting!!!)
With this shape I was sooo curious how it would turn out and I ended up LOVING it!!! I even got a compliment from my boyfriend on my hair...that doesn't happen often. Having a wand that tapers out that much looked so interesting!!! This was like a bouncy curl to me, I think I will use this one the most to be honest.
This is another under 8 minutes of curls, and have lasted all day, i'm so shocked at that but it's awesome!
I really love this one, the curl has even lasted over night shockingly!



13mm Wand


I really love the curls once they kind of got a bit loose. This isn't my favorite wand but I did like the fullness it brought to my hair! That is always a bonus :)



32mm Wand



My FAVEEEEEEEEE Saved the best for Last! I HEART this beauty wavy look! I curled it before I went out, The barrel is pretty large and my hair doesn't hold bigger curls very well but I could have made this look more put together but I loved it this way. Seriously took under 5 minutes! Lasted most of the night but I might have had too much fun so it kinda went more straight near the end of the night :p that's what you get for having fine straight hair I guess.

PROS:
*TONS of different options of curl types and colors. The variety is amazing!
* Tourmaline technology
*Plastic on the end of wand so you don't burn yourself!
*Great heading range
*Nice and compact 
*Much easier then a conventional/old school curling iron
*Super fast!
*Non tangel cord!! <3


CONS:
*Possibly the price BUT if you like to curl your hair I would recommend highly recommend this product, there is nothing on the market that is this perfect, I have yet to come across any company with so many attachments.


I had such a blast doing this review, I hope the curls came out well enough to see. I also will do an update with my extensions once my hair is actually fully bleached and coloured to what I am trying to get too.

I would absolutely recommend this curling wand to anyone who is looking for variety, doesn't want to burn their selves and is in need of a good curler! This can give you the little makeover your hair may need without doing anything drastic. The creations with the Sapphire wand are endless :D



Definitely check out Irresistible Me Sapphire 8 in 1 Complete Curling Wand, you won't be disappointed =)You can find also check out more reviews pictures and updates here:

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Disclaimer: These products were sent to me to review, this does not effect my honest opinion of each product.
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